S2.E18: Do It For You
As humans we tend to make decisions based off of what the people around us think or say, vs. simply deciding what would make us most happy. In this episode Kayla explains why you should make the decisions that would make YOU the happiest and not worry about others' opinions.
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Hi there. I'm your host, Kayla Rain, and welcome back to Attract It With Ease. I'm really excited about this week's episode because I'm going to be talking about how we as humans have a tendency to make decisions based off of what the people around us think about us or based off of their decisions or their opinions, instead of really only considering what we want and what we think is important or what makes us happy. So before I get into that, I want to begin by sharing my gratitude and the three things I'm grateful for this week are number one, date nights with my husband Dan for Valentine's Day.
I gave him a series of workshops, and these are wine tatting, whiskey pairing, wine and cheese events. And I have just really been enjoying these date nights, date nights with him. We've only had two so far. We have more coming up. I booked about four months out, and these classes are coming up every two weeks. So twice a month we have these preset date nights, and it has just been so much fun and so educational and nice to have something to look forward to.
But just really fun to have these romantic little getaways with my husband where we don't have to think of what we have to do or where we have to go or how to make it exciting. We can add dinner or we can just go out to these classes, and it's been so much fun and I'm grateful for that time with my husband. The second thing that I'm grateful for today is my new workout mirror. And I don't know if you guys have heard of these things, there's several brands that make them, but there are these mirrors that you can buy that connect to the internet where you can work out at home and essentially be live with a trainer if you wanna work with a trainer, or you can do these prerecorded workout sessions, whether it's kickboxing or yoga or dancing or Tai chi or whatever the case may be.
You can do these workout classes right on your mirror and work out watching the class, also watching yourself and work out from home. And I just purchased one of these mirrors. I'm so excited about it. I just canceled my gym membership and I'm just so grateful that this technology exists, but that I have the ability to work out at home and I have the space to work out at home now, and I'm just really grateful for this advancement of technology in the world and in my life.
And the third thing that I'm grateful for today is the way that the internet is able to connect people from across the globe. And why this is on my mind today is, as you probably know, if you've listed for any period of time, I have a crystal shop and I'm a crystal artist. It's something I do on the side just for some side income and something I'm really passionate about. And because I make art with crystals and because I resell crystals, I get crystals from all over the world.
My main crystal distributor, I guess is from Uruguay, but I have purchased crystals from India, from Pakistan, from China, from Brazil all over the world. And I displaced a new crystal order today. And it really made me stop and think about how wonderful it is that we have that connection and the ability to transact from across the world to meet these people, to find products, to support businesses, and to have those shipped directly to our homes.
I mean, this did not exist a hundred years ago. How amazing and incredible and wonderful is it that we have the ability to connect. And I'm grateful for the internet and the ability to do that. So as I mentioned this week, I want to get into how this life is your journey, not theirs. I mentioned last week that the one person, the only person that you will spend your entire life with is yourself.
And so because of that, why shouldn't we be selfish? Why shouldn't we put ourselves first? Why shouldn't we love ourselves and do what makes us happy? Well, conceptually, that sounds amazing, but what we tend to do is worry about other people's opinions, worry about what other people think about us, worry about what's popular or what's not popular. And sometimes we make decisions, but because it might not be popular or because of what other people think, we don't share it. We keep it to ourselves, we hide it, and other times we just choose not to do the things that we would really like to do because we're worried about what other people might think or how we might be judged, or people might have already just told us that they don't agree with that.
And so I really wanna get into that topic today. And you know, this has been on my mind for several months, and part of the reason it's been on my mind is that there is a meditation that I listen to from Esther Hicks. I'm a huge Esther Hicks fan, but she talks about taking things in for you, meaning do it for you, do it for you. Don't do it because of what someone else thinks. Don't do it because you want, want to bring someone on your journey.
Don't do it to talk another person into something or to help uplift them or inspire them. Do things for you. And a perfect example of that is I went to New York City for the Signal Awards. I went to the awards party. I went entirely by myself. I did not bring my husband. I flew there by myself. I was only there for two days. It was a quick in and out. And yet the time that I was there, I witnessed so many wonderful things. It's been years since I've been to New York.
And the last several times that I've been, I haven't actually been to the city, New York City. And so this time I just was in awe of some of the things that I was seeing. There was this incredible sunrise the morning that I was leaving. And because so many of the skyscrapers are just glass buildings, this sunrise glowing off of the glass buildings was just jaw dropping. Beautiful. And I came home and I told my husband about it, and he's like, well, did you take any pictures?
And I said, no. And he, of course, now my husband's a professional photographer, so of course that's where his mind goes is, did you take any pictures? But when I said No, he was so, so shocked, like, why did you not take pictures if it was this incredible? And I said to him, I didn't need a picture, I just wanted to experience it for me. And it really has had me thinking about how there's this whole phrase, do it for the gram if you, if there, if it isn't on the gram, if it's not posted, if there isn't a picture, it didn't happen, right?
It's this whole kind of theme of life today. It's like we do things to impress people. We do things because it looks good. We do things because it's popular, and then we post it on social media and we share it with others. And maybe it's something we're into. Maybe it's just something we wanna brag about. But we always just put our best foot forward and we have like these fake profiles. And I say fake because it's only a small portion of who we are and a small portion of what our life looks like that we post for the whole world to see.
And then that's what they think we are. That's who they think we are. And we come across as these beings or these people that are only a small portion of, of who we are as a whole. And so much of what we do. And so much of what we post is either something that's not even authentic to us, something that we're not really even into, or it's just the best of the best because we only want to look good to the world, right? We're not gonna post bad pictures, we're not gonna post when we're going through hard times.
We are only posting the best of our lives. And I've been thinking about that and thinking about how we choose to do things for everybody else. We care so much about what everybody thinks, but this life is for us. This is our journey. This is not their journey. This is our journey, and we need to live life for us. And so today, I wanna share with you some things that I have decided, or decisions I've made, or things I've done in my life that some people would consider unpopular opinions or unpopular decisions, I should say.
Some of them I can even share my experiences of people in my life who directly disagreed with me and maybe still have negative thoughts or opinions about these life choices. And then I'd like to get into a little bit later some things that maybe haven't been decisions of mine or maybe haven't impacted me or affected me yet in my life, but might be decisions that I'll make in the future, but that are common decisions or lifestyle changes, or just things that people choose to do or things that people want to do that they do or don't do based off of everyone else's opinion.
And I say everyone else, it could be the world, it could be social media, it could be your significant other, it could be your parents, it could be your religion. So let's jump right into that. So here are some things that I have done in my life that are considered unpopular. First one, I have tattoos. Okay? A lot of people have tattoos, and I don't just have tattoos. I have big tattoos.
I say big tattoos. Both of my sides are tattooed. I have a word written down one side of my body. And then on the other side, I have, I'm trying to decide if I wanna share everything that's on me. But essentially I have some birds and a nautical star, but both of my sides are tattooed. If I was wearing a bikini, people would be shocked because most of my tattoos, aside from my sleeves, which are pretty recent in the last few years, you can cover with clothing.
Clothing. So it's really easy for me to go out into the world and just look like an average everyday Joe. But when I choose to show my tattoos, I have not only a lot of tattoos, I have big tattoos. So that leads me to my sleeves. It took me a long time to get a sleeve, but I had wanted one for probably 10 years or more before I finally pulled the trigger. And the biggest thing holding me back was that I had worked for employers for years and years and years who were not accepting of tattoos, who said that if I had them, I would have to cover them.
And I also knew that there would be jobs maybe I would want in the future where I might not even be considered for the job because of the tattoos that I wanted or the tattoos that I had. So I talked about that on a prior podcast episode, but when I made the decision to get my first tattoo sleeve, it was a huge decision. And it was finally when I came to a point in my life where I said, I'm gonna stop caring what everyone else thinks about my tattoos, and I'm gonna do what I want. And I got a full sleeve. I did it in one sitting, 12 and a half hours under the needle.
It was quite the event. My husband loves to brag about it because he says, I am so tough. I don't know about that. But in any case, that was my first tattoo sleeve. I've since done a second tattoo sleeve, which I've also talked about because I just got it last year. That was multiple sessions, over 36 hours of tattooing. It's a full color sleeve. And I'll tell you what, it's not everybody's cup of tea, it's botanical, it's got bees in it, and it has a whole honeycomb background, and it's in this muted kind of 1970 style coloring.
So it is one of those things that people either love or they hate, but you know what? I just decided? I don't care. It's not about them. It's not about what other people think. It's about what I think. And so yes, I have a lot of tattoos. I have two tattoo sleeves, but guess what? I was raised Mormon. And I think that might be the first time I've said this on the podcast, but I'm no longer practicing. My family is very much still in the religion and integrated in that.
And so just my family alone, many of the people that I'm related to have very strong opinions about tattoos. The religion does not really look at them in a positive light, so to speak. That's not to say there's not plenty of Mormons with tattoos, but as many as I have, and as big as they are, I can tell you they're not something that the church really would approve of. I say the church, meaning the Mormon church, the l d s religion. So that's the first thing that came to my mind when I started thinking about what are some of the unpopular decisions that I have made.
All right. Well, the second thing is I have changed careers so many times in my life. Like so many times. I did have one job that I loved that I did for nine and a half years. That is the longest job I've ever held. And I don't work there anymore because I was laid off because they were bought out by their shareholders. And essentially everyone in my department was laid off and they got rid of our department. So since then, I've done a lot of so-called job hopping. And I don't mean job hopping, like I'm constantly changing jobs, but I've done a lot of different things over the years since then.
And sometimes when I decide I'm just not happy in my career, people don't approve or don't agree or think, ah, here she goes again, she's changing jobs again. And I tend to do mostly jobs in the same field. Mostly everything I've done has been in sales. But I've mentioned on the podcast that just prior to the pandemic, I had been hired to be a train conductor, which is completely in left field from anything that I had ever done, which is part of why I was interested in it and part of why I wanted to do it.
But it's just those decisions of, you know what, what I'm doing doesn't make me happy anymore. Or you know what, if I continue to stay in this career, I will eventually get tired of it, or I'll never make the money that I want to make or that I deserve. And so I do these pivots and I change every, I don't know, three to five years, I just decide I wanna do something else. And I think it's okay to do that. And that's not everybody's life plan. But so many people think, and this is very traditional, like what my parents would think growing up and what their parents would think, it's maybe not as traditional today or popular today, but a lot of people think go to school, graduate, get a career, get a job, do that same job for the rest of your life.
Retire with it. Get your retirement, get your pension, whatever the case may be, retire young. And that is one way to live your life. But I'll tell you what, that's not the way I wanna live my life. I wanna experience, I wanna grow, I wanna live, I wanna try new things. I wanna learn. And when I get bored or when things aren't working out or when I feel like there's something better for me out there, I'm gonna make those decisions. And I know that that's not always popular, but guess what? It's my life. It's my journey.
It's not theirs, it's not yours. Your life is your journey. It's not mine, it's not theirs. All right, well here's a big one. An unpopular decision that I made was moving into a tiny house. And I know that that can seem super trendy right now. It's, it's like the tiny house movement is a thing. But I didn't just move into a tiny house. I moved into a very non-traditional tiny house. I moved into a tiny house that was built on the back of a military truck.
Guys, I've talked about this, but if you're just listening to me for the first time, I lived in this truck with my husband for over three years and we just recently moved back into a traditional home. Now I can tell you probably the one person, and I don't know if he'll ever listen to this, so if he does, I apologize dad, for speaking bad about you. But the one person who was what I felt the least supportive of that decision was my dad. And I don't think he was so much not supportive of me moving tiny as he was not supportive of me moving into the truck.
He just had so many concerns about would it be safe, would it be reliable, would it be a good financial decision? Would it be something that I would regret? Because when we first moved into the truck, we were making payments on it. We didn't own it. We do own it now, which is amazing. We own our own home in that sense, cuz we still have the truck. It's parked outside right now. But my dad just was really not a fan of the idea of me giving up my lifestyle and moving tiny.
And he didn't say a lot about it. He didn't push the issue, but I could see it on his face and every time I talked about it, I could just tell that he disapproved. And I think that that's the case in life. So many times people will either share their opinions and tell you that they think it's a bad idea or tell you why you shouldn't do something. But other times it's literally just how they treat you or just the way they look at you or just the way they make you feel.
And it's this guilt, it's this, you don't want to disappoint someone. You want to do what's best for you. You want to make them happy. And it makes you question your decisions sometimes when somebody doesn't agree with what you're thinking. I can tell you that that was a very unpopular decision. And the longer that I lived tiny, I think people got more and more used to the idea. And so many other people when they found out or still find out, think it's so cool. But that doesn't mean that the majority of the world agrees with that lifestyle.
Agrees with tiny living. You know, I had a composting toilet. I was showering at the gym or at my husband's work or at an outdoor shower. I was doing laundry at the laundry mat. That is not the normal lifestyle and it's definitely not a lifestyle that everyone else approves of. Okay, here's another one. When I was married the first time, I really, really wanted a motorcycle. I wanted to learn to ride a motorcycle, and I wanted to buy a motorcycle.
And my husband at the time was not a fan. And not only was he not a fan, he basically forbid me from doing it. Now, I did have a young son, so maybe it wasn't a the best idea at that age because at the time that I wanted this, my son was probably only four or five. And my husband used that to his argument all the time. What if you die? What if you get injured? Why would you risk that you're a mother? And I get that, but I can tell you if there's something that you are super passionate about, you shouldn't close that off.
You should see it through. Sometimes it's a calling. Now, riding motorcycles was not a calling for me. It's, it didn't have anything to do with why I'm here on this planet, at least I don't really believe. So it hasn't been up to this point, but it was something that I was really passionate about and I really wanted. And when we separated before we even divorced, I felt so strongly about it. And the fact that he told me no, that I went out and I signed up for a class and I learned to ride a motorcycle. I got my motorcycle endorsement and I bought a motorcycle shortly after the divorce was final.
And I have to say that was not a popular decision or opinion. A lot of people think that that was really risky, that I was not, you know, being a good parent, all of that. Funny enough, my dad seemed to really approve because my dad loves motorcycles and rode one most of his life growing up. And years a later my dad got a motorcycle again. So my dad was somewhat supportive of that. But I can tell you there were so many other people in my life that were not supportive.
But it was a decision that I wanted that when I finally felt like I had the ability to, that was the first thing that I did. I ran out and I did it. Speaking of, this wasn't even on my list to talk about, but now that I'm thinking about it, another thing that my husband forbade me from doing was cutting my hair. He actually told me, if you cut your hair, I won't love you as much. Can you believe that? He said that? He said that he would not love me as much if I cut my hair.
He said, well, I won't be as attracted to you, so I won't love you as much. Is that what you want? And I can remember that being one of the biggest arguments we had leading up to our divorce, just going round and round in circles about me cutting my hair. So once again, as soon as we separated, I chopped it like boy, short, like shaved up the back short like pixy ish style hairdo. Because I was finally just like, you're not gonna tell me I'm gonna do what I want.
I'm gonna do what's best for me. And I'm not saying cause these disputes in your relationship, that's not the message I want you to take away from this podcast. But what I want you to take away is that this is your life. This is your journey. You shouldn't care what other people think you should do. What makes you happy. All right? I'll tell you another unpopular decision. My divorce people loved my husband. People still love my husband.
I had my husband as a guest on one of my podcast episodes. If you haven't listened to it, go back and listen to it because he is really charming and you really appreciate him. He has a lot of really positive things to say. But I can tell you at that point in my life, my husband and I were young. I got married at the age 18, and I had a lot of growing up to do. And at some point we were not the right fit for each other, and I decided to divorce him. But I did not want to share all the nitty gritty details of why we were separating with the world.
And so I didn't share a lot. I didn't tell anybody the problems we were having or what we were going through. I kept it private. And because of that, a lot of people felt like it was a bad decision. Kind of like, what are you doing? At the time we had been married, like, gosh, I don't even remember like eight years. It took us another year, a year and a half to get divorced. So we had been together a really long time, and so many people did not approve of that decision and questioned it and asked and were curious and, and really it had nothing to do with them.
And it had everything to do with me and my happiness and his happiness and my son's happiness. You have to remember that these decisions are your decisions. It's your life, it's your journey. It's not theirs. Okay? On the flip side of that, an unpopular decision that I made when I married my current husband, Dan, was we eloped. We didn't plan a big wedding. We didn't invite anybody to it. We got married on the side of a cliff in Yosemite.
And the only people there were myself, my husband, his best friend who was our efficient, his so-called wife, which was not even really my decision, but she kind of was a package deal with his best friend coming to marry us and our photographer. There were five people including the two of us. Preg not pregnant. We were not pregnant. I don't know why that came out present. There were five of us present. I did not invite my family.
He did not invite his family. We didn't invite any of our friends. We didn't have a reception, we didn't hold a party. We didn't do anything except send out wedding announcements maybe three or four weeks after it, once we had some pictures and could place an order for those. Now, most people knew the date and knew that it was occurring. The people that were close to us knew. So it was no surprise to them. But leading up to it, we had a lot of comments from mostly family, but some friends just about how sad they were that they couldn't be there.
And kind of like, why would you do this? Why wouldn't you want to include us? Why don't you want us there? Why wouldn't you just invite a few of the people that you love? Why can't we be there? And I'll tell you what, both of us have been married before. We didn't need the big party. It wasn't about everybody else. We didn't wanna spend the money and who cares? We didn't need any gifts. It wasn't about them. It was about us and our experience and our love and our commitment to each other. And that's what I'm talking about.
There are so many things in life that we can do. We should do that. W are the things that will make us happy. But so often we're talked out of the things we want, or we're talked into things we don't want, or we make concessions, or we meet people halfway on things that really are not the best decision for us, or aren't things that will make us happy. And we do it because we care about what they think. We care about what the world thinks.
And we want to be loved. We wanna be wanted, we wanna be approved of. And we have to remember this. Life is about us. It's about you. It's your journey, not theirs. And I'm gonna pause right here for a word from my sponsors, okay? Now I wanna get into some things that haven't been decisions of mine yet, could be in the future. But other issues, other topics, other things that I think so many people in the world are dealing with.
And these are some of the things I feel like people have pressure to do or not do. And some of the things that really if they did them, it would make them thrive, it would make them happy, it would change their lives. And yet they hide the fact that this is how they feel. They don't move forward, they don't take these actions, they don't take these steps because they're concerned about what other people think or how other people will judge them.
So the first thing I have on my list is elective surgery. Now, I have plenty of friends and family who've had elective surgery. I have not to this date, but I will tell you, you can almost guarantee you at some point in my life I will. Now, whether it's breast augmentation or a facelift or a tummy tuck, you know, there's people out there, people in my own life who are transitioning with their sexuality, with who they are.
There are so many different surgeries out there that are available that are affordable, that can change our happiness, that can affect our lives in a huge way. And yet those are things that other people have strong opinions about. If someone wants to go from being a man to being a woman or being a woman to going to becoming a man, so much of the world is un approving, unaccepting, unsupportive, upset, angry, outspoken about these life decisions.
But if somebody feels like they are misgendered, shouldn't they have the right to make that decision? Now, I might be scratching an itch here, or I might be poking at some people. And I'm not trying to poke the bear, I'm not trying to upset you with this conversation. I'm just trying to get your mind thinking about all of the things that we do or don't do in life simply because of what others think or what other people say.
So elective surgery is one of those. It's one of those things that if you've considered it and the reason you haven't done it is because of someone else's opinion. I have to tell you put that aside and reconsider if it, if it's not a thought that's gone away, if it keeps coming to you, if it's something that you can work out and you can afford, it's something that will make you happy. I encourage you to do what makes you happy. All right?
Here's another not so popular decision, adoption. Now, adoption is a lot of things. It could be that you give a child up for adoption. It could be that you adopt a child. It could be a, you adopt a child that's a different race than you or your husband or your other children. Adoption is not necessarily a popular opinion or decision.
Some people, especially if you can have your own children, don't understand why you would adopt a child from another country or a child of another race. There are people who can't have children and they're still judged for adopting. Adoption is a huge decision, not just a huge life decision, but it's a decision that so many people on the outside who have nothing to do with the decision, have an opinion of. And that's unfortunate because there are so few people affected by your decision to adopt or not adopt or give your child up for adoption.
But yet the world thinks that they have the right to tell you what to do with your life or your body or your child or your family or your money. It's silly when you think about it. On the flip side, here's another hot topic. What about abortion? Now, I'm not trying to turn this into a political podcast or political conversation. I'm just saying there are people out there who've had abortions or who need an abortion or who want an abortion. And then there's other people who are completely opposed to abortion, who judge someone who's had an abortion.
There's people who are on the fence, and it depends on the situation. And were you raped and what? You know, like was it life threatening? What is it? Everybody stands somewhere different on the fence. Nobody's going to agree with everybody. We're all gonna have a different opinion on this topic. And yet we all have the ability and we all have the right to make those decisions for ourselves. And I think the saddest thing is when somebody makes the decision that they don't want because of what somebody else thinks or somebody else says.
And that could be that they choose to keep a child. It could be that they choose to give up a child. It could be either side of the conversation, but these are the things that I'm talking about where we give away our life, we give away our choices, we give away our freedom, we give away our happiness because of what other people think. It's absurd. All right, well in that same vein, what about donating your eggs or donating sperm? I will admit, when I was in my twenties and I was in my first marriage, I was gonna donate eggs.
I went actually very far through the process. I was on a site, I had this gay couple, I guess I'll say two men who were married, who wanted children, who had selected me as their donor. We had gone through a lot of the screening process. And the only reason that I did not donate my eggs to them was because my husband at the time decided that he was not going to go along with it. And because I was married, I didn't have the right to donate without his approval or without his involvement.
So it kind of put everything at a halt. And it was probably really bad timing because it was towards the end of our relationship when things were starting to fall apart anyway. And that's why it didn't work out. I never did end up donating my eggs. And I can tell you there are so many families and so many people who have benefited from people that were willing to donate eggs or willing to be a surrogate mother, willing to carry a baby for someone else. And there are so many people that have children and loving families because a man decided to donate his sperm.
It could be donating plasma, donating blood, it could be any of that. There's going to be someone who has an opinion about it, and sometimes they're gonna agree with you and many times they're not. And are you going to let that stand in the way of your happiness? What if you're on the other side of that? What if you can't have kids and you need an egg donor, or you need a sperm donor, or you need somebody to carry your child? There are going to be people in life that disagree with that decision, who think that you should do it naturally.
And if you can't do it naturally, God doesn't want you to have children. I'm telling you guys, there's these things. There's these things that we do. Little things, big things, decisions we make. It could be as small as your hairstyle. It could be shaving your head. You could be a woman and you wanna shave your head. You're just so fed up with your hair, you wanna shave your head and you just wanna wear wigs. And people are gonna have an opinion about that.
People are gonna talk about you. If you do it, people are gonna judge you. You're gonna get a stigma. But guess what? If it's what makes you happy, do it. If having blue hair makes you happy, do it. If putting gauges in your ears makes you happy, do it. If body piercings make you happy, do it. If dropping the boyfriend or the girlfriend or the career or the unhealthy toxic friends in your life or getting rid of social media is what will make you happy, do it.
Folks, this is what I'm talking about. It's your journey. It's your life. I wanna challenge you to make the decisions that are best for you to recognize the places in life where you are holding back because of somebody else, where you are making the decision based off of someone else's input, someone else's feedback. Now, I do feel like if you're married and you're in, if you're in a committed relationship, there are times that you need to make decisions collectively.
You need to make decisions that are best for both of you. But that doesn't mean that you have to give up on your dreams. And it doesn't mean that you have to take their side. It doesn't mean that you can't come up to come up with some type of collaboration, some type of like way to meet in the middle. It doesn't have to be what they want. And it doesn't necessarily have to be entirely what you want, but some of it should be what you want. And to a point, you have to understand that what you want is what you are called to.
It's what will make you happy. And no one else will understand that. And no one else has to understand that. And no one else is on the same journey as you. And no one else is going to be there with you through it all. You are the one who knows. You are the one who will deal with the consequences. You are the one that will be happy. It is your life at risk. It is your happiness at risk. It should be your decision. And with that, that leads me into this week's action item.
I want to encourage you this week to take action on something that you've been putting off because of what someone else thinks. That could be cutting your hair, that could be getting a tattoo, that could be learning to ride a motorcycle. That could be giving up meat and becoming a vegan or a vegetarian. It could be dating someone of the same sex. It could be moving in with someone before you're married.
It could be moving into a tiny house. It could be so many things. It could be something big, it could be something small. But I encourage you to think through the things you've considered in life and the things that you've put on hold or the things that you've said no to, that you did not because you wanted it, but because someone else said no or someone else disapproved or someone else talked to you out of it. Think through that, and I encourage you to take actions towards it.
Now, it might be something that you can't afford right away. It could be something like elective surgery. Maybe you want to get a breast augmentation and you can't afford that today. Well, the action item is to start researching it, start manifesting it. Find ways to bring that about. It doesn't have to happen overnight, it doesn't have to happen today. But if it's something that you feel passionate about and something that will make you feel better and something that will make you happy, do it for you because it's your journey, not theirs.
I just wanna remind you, my listeners, that I do have a weekly giveaway for a manifestation journal. These are journals that are designed by me. They are not for sale. They can't be found anywhere else. The only way you can get one is by leaving a review of my podcast. I would prefer a review on Apple Podcasts because that's the biggest platform where my listeners come from. But any review site that will let you leave a written review, any listener that leaves a review, will be entered into a weekly drawing for one of my manifestation journals.
There are copies of those on my website so you can see what they look like. They are awesome. They are super high quality, and I'll ship it to you for free. So if you leave me a review, tell me what you think. Tell me if you got anything out of this episode, you'll be entered into a weekly drawing to win. It's been fun talking with you this week. I'm looking forward to next week. Have a good one. Bye-bye. 