S2.E8: Authenticity
Our differences are what make us unique, yet so often we try to hide what we think are our flaws, or even change ourselves for others. In this episode Kayla discusses authenticity by sharing some of her differences and encourages listeners to identify their own unique qualities.
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Hi there. I'm your host, Kayla rain, and welcome back to attract it with ease. It's so good to be with you today. I have not been feeling well for a while. I came down with COVID and I'm finally feeling so much better, and I'm so grateful to be recording today as always, I'd like to start with my gratitude this week. And the first thing I'm grateful for is my upcoming vacation to Mexico, with my husband. We leave next week and I am so excited.
We have only been out of the country together once and it was to Mexico, but it was definitely not a tourist trip. We went to a part of the country that they didn't speak English. They didn't accept the U S dollar. It was awesome because we got to experience the culture of Mexico and real Mexican food. And it was fun to experience Mexico that way. But my husband has only been to Mexico that one time. And I said, oh my gosh, we have to go back and we have to do it like a tourist.
So we are going to Playa Del Carmen. We're staying at an all-inclusive resort. It's adults only. And I am so excited for him to be able to see the country from a tourist perspective. It's going to be amazing. And I'm grateful that all of the factors with the pandemic have calmed enough that we can feel comfortable leaving the country and be able to have COVID tests to come back in the country, already set up at the hotel and everything's just in place. And, and I'm so grateful for that.
The second thing that I'm grateful for today is sincere compliments. And the reason that I'm thinking that is I've had a few compliments, particularly from my Starbucks experience that I haven't felt have been very sincere. And why I say that is that when I go through the drive-through at Starbucks, I know that they train their staff to talk to the people while they're waiting for their drinks, so that the time passes more quickly. It's not awkward, they're not impatient.
So they're trained to try and talk to you. And so almost every time I go through a Starbucks drive through, I get a compliment and I feel like they're super insincere this morning. I got a coffee and the store manager was running the drive-through as she complimented me on my hat, which was literally just a baseball cap, nothing things special about it. And although it was nice, I just thought, Hmm, that didn't seem very sincere. It was just something for her to say. And I understood that and I took it for what it was, but on the flip side, just a couple of days ago, someone at work gave me a very sincere compliment completely out of the blue that just touched me and kind of set me in a positive direction for the whole day.
And that person said to me, I am so grateful that you work here. You are such a good manager and such a great addition to our team. Thank you for working here. And I don't know where that came from. It was completely out of the blue, but like I said, it made my entire day and it was such a wonderful compliment. And I'm just grateful for those experiences and people who go out of their way to give genuine compliments. The third thing on my list this week is I am grateful for my tattoo sleeve. That is in progress.
I do have a sleeve on my left arm, but I'm working on a full sleeve on my right arm. And I say full. So the top and the underside of my arm are being tattooed where the left side, it's only the top of the arm and it has been a work in progress. I have to give a big shout out to my tattoo artists, Jordan, he's doing an amazing job, but for so many years I have wanted a tattoo sleeve and I have put it off and put it off. And the biggest reason is that as I've worked for the corporate world, most of my employers have not been okay with visible tattoos.
And of course you do something like a tattoo sleeve, and it's pretty difficult to hide that you're going to be covering it up a lot. If you make that kind of decision. I finally worked for an employer who is okay with visible tattoos, as long as they're not offensive, but I'm just also grateful that the tattoo is coming together. It looks amazing. I constantly get compliments, although I'm doing it for myself and not others, it's reassurance that it looks really, really incredible, but I'm grateful that I finally feel like I can do something that makes me happy and do it for me and stop making a decision based off of what others want or what others feel.
And that leads me in today's into today's conversation. I want to talk about authenticity. And to me being authentic is being completely and utterly your true self, who you are at your core, who you are without judgment, who you are when you're by yourself, when you're living your greatest desires, when your ex terrier is a representation of your interior.
And the reason I wanna talk about that is that so many times in life, we tend to change who we are and how we act and what we do. And maybe we don't even change. Maybe we just, it from other people because of the judgements that we will receive or because other people don't agree with, or don't like the things that we're doing or the things that we are wanting. Here's a prime example of that. I got married when I was 18 years old.
And at the time I was on a ballroom dance scholarship to college and I was obsessed with ballroom dancing. It was my life. I loved it. And before I met my fiance, who ultimately became my husband, I had dreamt for a couple of years that I would never have children, but that I would grow up and be a professional ballroom dancer. I would meet and fall in love with some amazing man. That would be my partner. And we would get married and travel the world together and compete in ballroom dance competitions.
And that's how we would make our money is just by winning ballroom dance competitions. And this was long before the show dancing with the stars or any of the other like dance opportunities that are a thing today. This was back in the nineties and I was just obsessed with dance. It was my life. All of my friends were people from my dance team and we would have get togethers on the weekends and we would have dance parties. And that was just my life. And then I met my husband and my first husband, who was not a dancer.
I met him at work and he was not into dancing. He had no interest in learning. And when he first met my friends, he didn't really care for them. And so after a short period of time, I stopped going to the get togethers that were not required for school, because I wanted to be with my fiance, who eventually was my husband. And he didn't enjoy them. He didn't like those people. He didn't like being around them. He didn't have anything in common and he didn't want to go.
So I gave up my time with my friends and ultimately gave up my friends for my husband. Well, a few weeks or months after we got engaged, but before we actually got married, the dance team was supposed to go to Blackpool, England to compete in the international ballroom dance championship. And I had never been out of the country at that age. And I was so excited to be able to visit England of all places and to participate in the world championship.
And it turned out that my fiance was not able to go. We weren't allowed to bring anyone. We couldn't bring our parents or our friends or anyone. It was just the dance team. And my fiance was not having it. He was not excited about me leaving the country without him. He was not excited that we would be apart for over a week. And he was not supportive about me going and it caused such a rift between us that I actually quit the dance team.
So here I was on a scholarship and I essentially dropped out of school, gave up dance, gave up, my friends, gave up everything for my husband because he wasn't into it. He didn't support it. It didn't fit his lifestyle or his interests. And granted I was 18 and I was young and I was immature, but it's one of the biggest regrets I have in my whole life. I wish that I had never given up dance, even now as, as a much older adult, I still miss dance and sometimes think, oh, you should have to take lessons.
I should get back into it. I shouldn't learn it. It was a great way to work out. But at the time it was also my social life. And I look back on that and think about how much I changed for this other person. And I don't want to imply that my husband made me do it. I did that on my own, but I did it because of him. I did it for him. And I think so many times in life, we tend to do those sorts of things and maybe not on such a drastic scale, but I do think we often change the way we look or change the way we dress or stop doing things or hide that we like things, you know, it could be that you're an adult and he still liked dolls.
And so you kind of hide that from people. I don't know. It could be anything, anything you're kind of ashamed of. And sometimes it's hiding it from another person. Other times it's just changing for another person. When I met my current husband, Dan, he told me something very similar. He had been working in the oil field and living much of his years in North Dakota because that's where the work was. And so his family was living in Las Vegas and he was living mostly in North Dakota and he didn't hardly have any friends and didn't know anyone out there.
So he turned to the internet to meet people and he made some friends online. A couple of them were women and his wife back at home was not about that. She was not happy about it. She didn't like it. And she asked him to stop talking to these people and he did, but it caused some big problems between the two of them. It ultimately kind of led to what was the start of their relationship falling apart. They ultimately got divorced and after his divorce, it was something that he regretted.
He regretted having to give up his friends and having to give up his relationships for another person. And so to this day, Dan wears a necklace that has a compass on it. And that compass to him is his daily reminder to not lose himself, to not give up who he is and not lose himself for another person or in a relationship. And when we first met, he told me straight up in the beginning, like, look, I am who I am and I'm not changing.
And you just have to accept that. And I was very much in the same place. Like, look, I'm not changing for you either. So we're good. And that's one of the best things about our current relationship is that we have a very interdependent relationship in the sense that Dan has his own interests and does his own things like he plays golf and I don't, and he goes off and he does that. And I'm not gonna take that from him. And I'm not expected to, to join him in that, but I also have my own interests and my own things that I don't expect him to do with me.
But then of course we have a lot of things in common and a lot of things we enjoy doing together and we support each other in our differences. And we love each other for our differences instead of trying to change each other, to be what we want the other person to be. And this is not intended to be a conversation about me and Dan or about how great my life is, but I really just want to kind of express some examples of how we tend to sometimes change for other people.
Now, sometime around 2005 or 2006, I was working, working with a business coach for the employer that I was working for at the time, my employer had hired this business coach to work with the managers and it was such an awesome experience, but I remember one conversation with this coach really vividly. And at the time I was dating a guy and we had been together for a while and he was asking me about authenticity. And he said to me, when was the last time that you were truly authentic with someone?
And of course my immediately response, my immediate response was something along the lines of while I'm always authentic. I'm completely myself all the time. And then he said, no, no. I mean, when was the last time that you allowed anyone to really know you to know everything about you? No secrets, no your thoughts, no, your past, no everything. And again, I said, I feel like I'm an open book.
And he said, no, like your relationship, the guy that you're with, what are you hiding from him? How would it feel? He said to completely open your chest and expose yourself to him and allow him to see you completely authentically as who you are and who you've been. And when he said that to me, it made me extremely emotional because at that time in my life, I was going through some things, I'm going through some things with my ex husband and parenting and some decisions that I had made.
And I was not completely proud of who I was and where I had been in some of the decisions that I had made. And, and I definitely was keeping some things close to the chest and to think about sharing all of that with another person and the judgment that I might receive or the things he might think or the way he might feel, or his opinions about it. And even what that maybe could do to our relationship was scary to me. It was a scary thought to think I can't expose myself like that to this person.
And yet it was life-changing to recognize that instead of just accepting myself for who I was and loving myself, I was hiding the things about myself that I wasn't proud of. And I didn't like, and I wasn't being completely authentic with the person that I was with. And how can you expect somebody to love you if they don't really know you? And how can you love yourself if you're hiding things from others?
You know, as we talk about authenticity, I can't help, but think of how boring life would be if we were all exactly the same. If we all had the same hairstyle, if we all dressed the same and we liked the same foods and we listened to the same music, life would be pretty boring. They say that variety is the spice of life. And that's so true. And truthfully, it's our differences that make us unique.
And yet it's our differences that we tend to find as flaws in ourselves or the things that we tend to hide from other people. There are so many things that maybe we enjoy or we like, but aren't considered socially acceptable. And so we tend to either change those things about ourselves or hide those things about ourselves so that we can fit in. And we won't be under the scrutiny or judgment of someone else. And I have to say that I recently was challenged with an activity of coming up with 20 of my personal strengths and that maybe doesn't sound very hard, but 20 is a good size number.
And when I first sat down and tried to come up with 20 of my strengths, I was able to rattle off about five, no problem, but it took me a while to actually come up with 20. But the fact of the matter is that we know ourselves better than anyone else. We, no one knows us as well as we know ourselves. And so when you sit and think about what are the things that make me different, what are the things that make me unique and of those slings, what are my strengths?
It was really empowering for me to actually sit down and put that on paper, put that in writing. And so today I want to share with you my 20 strengths and why I feel that their strengths, because I hope that that conversation will help you reflect on some of the things about yourself that maybe you're not putting enough emphasis on, but that make you different. That are what make you authentic. And those are the things that you should focus on when you're trying to hide your flaws. And maybe some of those things are the things that you see as flaws.
And I challenge you to recognize the goodness about yourself, but also to show that side of yourself to show your authentic self to the world. So here's my list of 20 strengths and sharing. This may come off as a little bit arrogant. It's not intended to be that I want to share with you the things that are my authentic self, and that set me apart from other people. What makes me unique? So number one is that I see the good in everything and everyone, and I really do, but what's interesting is that other people recognize that about me and tell me that all the time, I tend to find myself in situations where other people are complaining and without even thinking, I try and look for the positive and try and spin the situation and tell the other person, yeah.
But what about this? Or did you think about this or maybe this, and I am constantly trying to look for the positive, trying to give people the benefit of the doubt. And that's something that comes naturally to me and I know does not come naturally to everyone else. Okay. Number two is my ability to be alone with myself and my thoughts. I shared this a couple episodes ago, I think in my gratitude, but I have learned that most people are uncomfortable being alone.
And I love my alone time. And I love my time to just think and plan and organize and just work through things. I really believe that I have a strong mind and I love the way that my mind works and my ability to kind of work through situations in my head. And if I didn't have time alone, if I didn't have that time to really work through things, I know that I wouldn't be as accomplished as I am in life.
And I wouldn't be as organized as, as I am. And I see that as a strength. Okay. Number three is I have strong attention to detail like super, super strong. And it's a good thing in my current job because I have to have high attention to detail because I am often looking at very specific paperwork in order for loans to get funded.
And I have to look for errors and look for mistakes. And basically I'm the final eyes on things before they get submitted to a lender or to underwriting. And so it's really good with my job, but just in general, as I mentioned on a previous episode, I'm good at writing resumes and editing content. And I have such strong attention to detail. I feel like it's something that the average person doesn't have as a strength. Number four, I have a hunger to learn and I'm always growing.
I've shared many of the things that I have self-taught myself in past episodes on the podcast, but I used to be an extreme couponer. And I taught myself how to do that. And I've, yeah, those shows about extreme couponing where people have shopping carts full of stuff and they pay 35 cents or they actually make money on their purchase. That was me. Yeah. I know how to do that. I've done. That is super time consuming. I don't do it anymore so much, but I love learning things, even just learning how to become a podcaster and how to release to the different platforms and how to write show notes and, and all of those things.
I've, self-taught myself that just through reading and learning and, and using resources available to me, I love to learn and I'm constantly learning and growing. Okay. Number five, I am committed to the things that I'm passionate about. Now, let me quantify that because I'm not committed to everything. I wouldn't say I'm a totally committed person, but if I feel strongly about something, I will see it through.
And when I make a decision to do it, I always give a hundred percent. And I would say 110%, but I don't believe in 110%, but it's kind of like if I decide that I'm going to lose weight and I commit to a diet and exercise plan, I will give it a hundred percent for whatever period of time that I've committed to for, you know, 60 days or 90 days or 12 weeks or whatever. And with the podcasting, you know, it started out as just kind of a conversation.
But when I decided that I was going to do it and I was going to release it, I had a date that I was going to release it by this I'm talking in season one. I had a plan to release 10 episodes when it first went public. And so I was committed to making sure that it released on time and that the content was there and that it was done. And so I can say that about everything that I'm passionate about. I am super committed when it's something that I'm passionate about.
Okay. Number six, I speak my truth. Here's what I mean by that. I will always defend and back up what I believe, not to the point where I get in arguments, but I don't waiver. I don't change even though people don't agree with me. Always, even though sometimes people think I'm crazy, even though some of what I talk about on the podcast could be considered new age thinking I speak my truth and I defend my beliefs to the end.
Okay. Number seven, this kind of goes with the first one, but I naturally find ways to uplift others. So yeah, I'm always seeing the good in things and I'm always looking for the positive. But beyond that, I feel like people come to me when they're feeling down or need encouragement or need advice. One of my sisters in particular, I feel like when she needs something, she generally turns to me actually, a couple of my sisters are that way, but I feel like that's something that comes naturally to me.
I am able to listen. I'm able to get perspective, not always able to give good advice, but I am naturally able to help change people's mood, change their thought process and help uplift others. Okay. Number eight, I believe that I am more rational than emotional. And you may disagree with me because I have cried way more than I ever intended to on this podcast. So I'm probably viewed as a crazy emotional person.
I would say, I am a spiritually sensitive person. I'm not overly emotional. I am a very rational thinker. I plan things out. I see things through, I can see both sides of the situation. I think it makes me a good manager and I'm a very rational decision maker. And I think that that's one of my strengths. Okay. Number nine, I have confidence in who I am, and this is something that I've had to work on through life.
I wouldn't say that this has always been one of my character's strengths, but I am confident. And I wouldn't say confident in every aspect of who I am. Like, I'm not always completely confident in my appearance, but I own who I am. And I am not ashamed of who I am or what I believe or how I live or what I do. And when you really think about it, like, I really am super unique.
I live in a tiny house because I live in a tiny house. It's a house built on the back of an army truck, right. I'm covered in tattoos. I wear only copper jewelry. Everything I have and do, and, and into is like one-off and unique. And, and I just, I don't want to be like other people. I want to be myself. I own it. And I think that confidence is something that people look up to, but also is super rare.
Okay. Number 10 is courageous leadership. I stand up for what I feel is right. This is something that I wouldn't have identified on my own, but it is a trait that we look for in management at my current job. And I have been told by others that it is one of my strengths. And so, because other people have pointed it out to me, I do recognize it to be one of my strengths now. And courageous leadership is when you don't just accept things as they are, you challenge the status quo, you question things.
If you feel like they're wrong, you stand up for what you believe is right. And so it's not just following the crowd. It's being okay with questioning. It's standing up for your team and getting answers, getting resolution when possible, instead of just saying, well, that's the way that it is instead of just taking direction from upper management, it's really just having the courage to question why and dig deeper.
So I do feel like that's a big strength of mine. Okay. Number 11, this is something I'm super proud of. I am a thoughtful gift giver. I'm one of those people that will spend months looking for the perfect gift for someone. If I know Christmas is coming up, I am not the person shopping on Christmas Eve. I am not the person just going to bath and body and buying a $20 gift basket because it's such an awesome deal.
I try to buy people or give people something that I know that they would appreciate. And a lot of the things that I do are custom ordered. They're, one-off one of a kind items. Sometimes things are personalized or engraved, and I really go out of my way to give thoughtful, genuine gifts. I almost never give gift cards. I almost never give money. And I usually put a lot of time and energy into my gift giving.
Okay, number 12, I am a creative thinker. And I kind of said this when I was talking about my ability to be alone with myself and my thoughts. I have the ability to work through almost any problem. So I'm really good at problem solving when it comes to like testing, but I'm also really good at problem solving in life. And especially in my own life, every single time I've been in a situation that I didn't know how to get out of when I really spend the time to try and come up with solutions.
I'm always able to come up with ways to fix my situation every single time. Now, sometimes the universe comes to my aid and the law of attraction works to my benefit in fact, a lot of times, but I feel like I am really good at thinking outside of the box and looking at situations in a way that other people often don't. And I, I do feel like that's a big strength of mine. Okay. Number 13, I am organized.
I'm a planner. Everything has a place. And if you looked at my tiny house, you might feel like that's not the case. And I don't mean that it's messy, but there's just only so many places to put things out. Things sometimes seem like they're in a weird place in my house, but just in life, I am super, super organized. I like to plan ahead. I like to list things out. I'm totally a list person. I check things off. I'm packing for vacation.
I've already started my packing list. I've already, you know, broken down each day and kind of started planning my outfits for each day and tried to plan activities for each day. And that doesn't mean that I'm not open to just going with the flow or, or changing things, but I love to be prepared. I love to plan. And I'm super organized. K number 14. I think a strength of mine is understanding how to be aligned and not just understanding, but being able to be in alignment myself.
This is a funny thing to say, and I don't know if anyone else would ever put this on their list of strengths, but for me being able to be in whatever Headspace and then stop and recognize that I'm not in alignment with my inner being. I'm not in alignment with the things that I'm trying to attract, or I'm not in alignment with who I want to present myself as I am able to not only understand how that works and stop and readjust, but I'm also able to kind of flip a switch and jump into alignment with my inner being.
And you know, if I'm super mad, super angry, super upset, I'm not always going to jump there like instantly, but if I stop and I slow down and I think about it and I set my intention, I can get there. And I feel like that is a huge strength. Okay. Number 15, I am an intentional person. How you do things with intent? I set my intentions every morning.
Like I literally verbally out loud and granted I'm usually by myself in the morning, which helps because my husband would probably think I'm crazy, but guess what? He already thinks. I'm crazy. So that's okay. But I am intentional. I do things with intent. Just like my gift giving is super intentional. I'm intentional about my day. I'm intentional about what I wear. I'm trying to be intentional intention, not a BL intention Knoll. I try to be intentional about the things that I say.
I'm an intentional person. Number 16. I am goal-driven. I always have to have goals every time I achieve a goal. I'm looking for, okay, what's next? What's next? What's next. Now that doesn't say that every single day I'm driven and that every single day I get up and jump out of bed and, and chase my dreams. I would like to say, that's the truth. It's not, but I always have a handful of goals that I'm striving for.
I'm always working on manifesting things. I'm always trying to achieve something. I am not okay with the status quo. I am not okay with life. Just being the way that it is and just living life day by day. I can't handle that. I need growth. I need to see progress. I need to feel like I'm achieving something. And I know that I have the ability to move my life forward and I'm constantly working to do that. Okay.
Number 17, I have a strong memory. I pick things up really quickly. And so that helps when I said earlier that I'm constantly learning and trying to grow. It definitely helps that I have a good memory. It has helped me in changing jobs. I've changed careers. A number of times started new industries. I mean, come on. I was going to be a train conductor, pre COVID. So that's completely like out there, right?
I I'm really good at memorizing and remembering things. I'm good at remembering dates. I'm good at committing names to memory. Most of the time, I'm good at remembering how to do things. And it, it does help with my attention to detail. I wouldn't say I have a photographic memory, but it's close to a photographic memory. Especially if I see things on paper, I can often kind of recall what I read later.
If I was paying good attention. When I first learned it. Okay. Number 18, I'm constantly working on. Self-improvement. What I mean by that is I'm never completely satisfied with where I'm at and who I am. I know that I can do more. I can be better. I can grow. And I love myself for who I am. I'm confident in who I am, but I'm also always striving to be a better, stronger version of myself. I want to be the person that I was born to be.
And I'm constantly working towards that number 19 I'm open-minded. And I wouldn't say I've always been as open-minded as I am today, but life has forced me to be open-minded. I grew up in Utah and you know, in Utah, there's one predominant religion. There's one predominant race.
And I would say I wasn't raised to be super open-minded, but I have moved around a lot. I have traveled a lot and my life hacks experience has taught me that I don't always know what's right. I don't always know the best. And I'm constantly learning, trying to, trying to grow, trying to experience new things. And I've run across so many different types of people, so many different types of cultures, and even with my own child and my own family and decisions that people have made or are making and changes, people are making in their lives.
I have learned that it's okay. And none of it matters. And most of it doesn't affect me. And you can love people no matter who they are, and no matter what the decisions are that they make. And I want that same grace and space, like I talked about on the episode with Tai, I want to be accepted. And so I equally try to be accepting and open-minded towards other people and other people's decisions. And then number 20, this one took me some real time.
I got to 19 and I sat for a while train and come up with the last one. It's like, number 20. What else am I good at? What else is a strength of mine? And I recognized, it's my ability to speak publicly. I mean, come on, I'm doing a podcast and granted I'm not recording in front of a bunch of people, but I have done public speaking. In fact, back in the mid two thousands. I remember speaking at a convention with over 3000 people and standing up on stage with a podium at a teleprompter.
And just, I know that there's not a lot of people that can do that. And not only am I able to do that, but I'm fairly confident in my ability to do that. If I'm prepared and I align myself with my inner being and I, and I try and see the value in what I'm bringing to the table or what I'm, I'm offering to the audience, I feel pretty comfortable being recorded. And I feel pretty comfortable public speaking.
And I do know that that's a strength of mine. So I've publicly shared my 20 strengths with you. I'm sure I have other strengths I haven't even considered yet, but I hope that this conversation has got you thinking about what makes you different. What sets you apart? What are the unique things about you that are your strengths? What are the things about yourself that you've been hiding or looking at as flaws that you could accept and show the world?
How can you be more authentic? That leads me into today's action item. And it's probably pretty obvious, but I'm going to recommend that you come up with your list of 20 strengths, spend some time on it, think about the things that makes you different from other people. I am certain that you have talents and skills and abilities that I do not possess. I know there are people out there that are really good at music and really good with communication, or really good with writing or understanding or listening or creating.
And there's so many things about us that make us unique and make us special. I hope that you see that in yourself. I hope you'll take the time to come up with your 2020 strengths. And I hope that you will be willing to be more authentic and open your heart and share yourself with the world because nobody wants a cookie cutter life. Life would be boring if we were all the same, own your differences and share the beauty of who you are with the rest of the world.
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